tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.comments2023-05-17T09:06:27.535-07:00The Childless by Choice ProjectLaura S. Scotthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11503359529542988850noreply@blogger.comBlogger364125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-16132142621581340972018-02-27T17:50:07.613-08:002018-02-27T17:50:07.613-08:00Bravo for noticing that childless tax-payers contr...Bravo for noticing that childless tax-payers contribute - and, by my observation, without the mean spirited attitude of tax-payers who complain, for instance, that their kids are grown, so why do they still have to pay school taxes?Northern Lightshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02413202288764355636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-85064208957626279832017-11-06T05:21:21.477-08:002017-11-06T05:21:21.477-08:00Interestingly, only one person ever asked me that ...Interestingly, only one person ever asked me that question, and I am 63 years old and married 39 years! It may be because I was a teacher for 32 years.<br />The person who asked me was the grandmother of one of my kindergarten students. My reply was that I wanted to concentrate on my career and didn't think I could do both motherhood and teaching. She looked at me and said the most wonderful thing. She said,"That is so nice. I wish that there were more people like you." It made my day.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06783093076687334541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-26806416165812496032017-07-19T20:49:58.184-07:002017-07-19T20:49:58.184-07:00I am married and childfree. I have been a teacher ...I am married and childfree. I have been a teacher of young children for 32 years. Now I supervise and mentor student teachers.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06783093076687334541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-58351410120045593272017-06-12T18:09:51.039-07:002017-06-12T18:09:51.039-07:00This was really interesting to read as a childfree...This was really interesting to read as a childfree women and I am going to check out the original Guardian article to which you refer. Regret does seem to be a real taboo and carries with it the added bonus of shame! Food for thought. If a mum expresses any regret at motherhood they are perceived as an unloving monster lacking the ability to fully love and women who may regret not having children fall into 'you only have yourself to blame' and you made a foolish decision category. It is very unfair.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07989247083280036669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-57478988779267918932017-05-22T18:43:34.210-07:002017-05-22T18:43:34.210-07:0034, married, from India with a similar mindset34, married, from India with a similar mindsetRoo Travels!https://www.blogger.com/profile/13597845785592340296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-50038247314418118552017-02-09T08:04:12.810-08:002017-02-09T08:04:12.810-08:00I respect Adele's honesty.I respect Adele's honesty.Stephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11460099133702330046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-6636490086940354502016-12-18T01:58:26.552-08:002016-12-18T01:58:26.552-08:00I am a 31 year old black female from SA. I am stig...I am a 31 year old black female from SA. I am stigmatised all the time. I am called selfish and cold. People often ask me invasive questions about my personal choice of bwing childfree. Why can't people respect my choice and mind their own lives.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17866506873697645559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-84607503624780707452016-11-03T13:21:38.053-07:002016-11-03T13:21:38.053-07:00I am in the process of reading your book right now...I am in the process of reading your book right now, and I just reached the personality section. Everything you said is completely true!! I am an introverted, planning perfectionist! All of the above. Seriously wow <3 I don't usually like reading, but I love your book!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11171450459212779024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-82356513208006084072016-04-22T13:50:29.446-07:002016-04-22T13:50:29.446-07:00Did this cruise take place? How many attendees? Is...Did this cruise take place? How many attendees? Is another planned?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09018210954360158816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-68477630382632193072016-03-26T14:08:13.760-07:002016-03-26T14:08:13.760-07:00Hi, do we have any more Childfree Kenyans on here?...Hi, do we have any more Childfree Kenyans on here?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04497419533133820344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-89833109155335389852016-02-28T12:06:25.216-08:002016-02-28T12:06:25.216-08:00I've experienced this in subtle and not so sub...I've experienced this in subtle and not so subtle ways for my entire career, which is in Student Affairs in higher education. Many departments regularly have night and weekend events in order to connect with students when they're available. That is an accepted aspect of our work. Yet when it seems to predominantly be the single people staffing and attending those events? Or those with partner and children are more readily excused for their early departure? Not cool.<br /><br />True organizationally-sanctioned and structured flex time is only vaguely supported because it's not like anyone has really made an effort to change the way meetings are scheduled or to create "core hours" with flexibility around those. It's essentially allowed to be departmentally managed but that doesn't change the fact we're not all in alignment. <br /><br />What makes me most furious is when some higher-up states we all need to support the work of other departments by making appearances at their evening and weekend events and, if we don't, we get knocked down a notch in performance reviews or, at least, in how we're treated by those higher-ups. That's REALLY not cool. <br /><br />Yet I need to go home for self-care reasons even though I don't have the same culturally sanctioned reason of partner and children. <br /><br />I have a doctoral degree I'm working on at home. <br />I have a furkid to take care of at home. <br />I have ME to take care of at home. <br />I have plenty of (what should be culturally sanctioned) reasons to go home, too. <br /><br />At least now I can constantly say "I have a paper to write" or "I have readings to do" and everyone oohs and ahhs and says "go! go!" I used to joke that my PhD will be my child in this life, but apparently I was closer to the truth than I ever realized. <br />archdivahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09145422010042596452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-68796904548211070452015-12-19T09:31:22.656-08:002015-12-19T09:31:22.656-08:00Hi this is Saranya from Tamil Nadu just got marrie...Hi this is Saranya from Tamil Nadu just got married a year ago I too want to lead a happy child free life Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09020575494937826966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-23562374965912719752015-11-08T07:00:28.460-08:002015-11-08T07:00:28.460-08:00Thanks Carey LT. I have from others that the lette...Thanks Carey LT. I have from others that the letter made the biggest difference!Laura S. Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11503359529542988850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-25438053777442748362015-11-07T19:10:09.606-08:002015-11-07T19:10:09.606-08:00Writing a well thought out letter and bringing it ...Writing a well thought out letter and bringing it to the initial consultation worked for me to get a vasectomy at age 25 with no children. I wrote about how many neglected children there are and how i would rather adopt if i want to parent. Also the earth environmentAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-23861572825854769632015-09-18T22:05:32.859-07:002015-09-18T22:05:32.859-07:00Thank you for posting this blog up as it is helpin...Thank you for posting this blog up as it is helping me to complete a homework assignment for my health class that focuses on women's health! This blog post you wrote hit home for me in that I have been able to continue with college and make choices that would be completely different had I had a child by now. Thanks also to the states lowering the age requirement for procedures such as the bilateral tubal litigation cauterization I had the choice to be a childfree woman and not even need birth control anymore. However before I was even sexually active I was already on birth control due to health issues so besides being able to avoid the depression of an unintended pregnancy birth control stabilized my periods and helped me to avoid anemia. That could be another blog post maybe for the future! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09357336862244056235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-42345007891860224482015-08-23T22:15:41.564-07:002015-08-23T22:15:41.564-07:00When I first started thinking about staying childf...When I first started thinking about staying childfree and happy, I had not expected to find like minded people in India. However, in the past few days, I have come across so many articles detailing the happy life of several childfree couples (there was an article in The Hindu yesterday) that I am surprised and relieved. The mere thought of the fact that I may have to spend the rest of my life raising a kid, used to give me shivers. However, the realization that I have a choice in this matter is relieving beyond comprehension :)Adityahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15642468362030372801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-35293592793809556042015-08-22T23:22:01.913-07:002015-08-22T23:22:01.913-07:00More comfortable in not to having kidsMore comfortable in not to having kidsAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06699562576342545365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-69999432611308471422015-08-07T06:40:52.433-07:002015-08-07T06:40:52.433-07:00I wish you all the very best! Men assume parenthoo...I wish you all the very best! Men assume parenthood because they don't think they have a choice! Laura S. Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11503359529542988850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-89969415681689091082015-08-05T19:27:59.063-07:002015-08-05T19:27:59.063-07:00It resonates so much with me! I am from India and ...It resonates so much with me! I am from India and and my story is no different. In our culture procreation is assumed, and its making childfree women suffer a great deal, many succumbing to unwanted parenthood. What they do not understand is, they are not only messing up with their lives, theu are also ruining child born out of such unions. <br />Its extremely difficult to find men who are childfree even here as the you correctly mentioned, their idea of manhood revolves around procreation. <br />Wish me luck in my search for a perfect man. :)mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04037318963925569002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-80320182270938224102015-06-07T20:12:56.044-07:002015-06-07T20:12:56.044-07:00To have a child just to be sure that there's s...To have a child just to be sure that there's someone to care for you at the end of your life is the most selfish reason to have a child. You're basically just giving birth to your aide.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04940597292943777936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-15054533480280206122015-05-29T07:28:52.699-07:002015-05-29T07:28:52.699-07:00@KR - did you find your tribe of child free couple...@KR - did you find your tribe of child free couples from TN...if not, you found one...me!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-46365038324274949022015-05-18T14:42:02.048-07:002015-05-18T14:42:02.048-07:00I think I read that only 30 percent of folks at en...I think I read that only 30 percent of folks at end of life are cared for by their children. So other people's children are caring for those parents too!Laura S. Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11503359529542988850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-45539950510537760442015-05-17T04:33:17.357-07:002015-05-17T04:33:17.357-07:00This is hilarious! He is going to force other peop...This is hilarious! He is going to force other people's grown children to take care of him in his dotage! Classic CF thinking!PeoplePlease!https://www.blogger.com/profile/04519851998908853972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-5039275288747702032015-04-11T15:54:16.684-07:002015-04-11T15:54:16.684-07:00Relationships are one type of wilderness to surviv...Relationships are one type of wilderness to survive. And it seems very rare to cross paths with a potential partner who doesn't want to pass on their specific DNA. What I'm trying to find in my search for community is peace and quiet, without the bland argument over Mothers VS Not Mothers and WHY, why why!?! does it have to make its way into conversation in so many needless comments? "So-and-so doesn't have kids so, obviously they can do whatever they want/pay attention to whatever they want/spend their resources on whatever they want, etc." It's not a competition! Well, maybe it is but, it doesn't have to be! I get so frustrated when I hear others speak to me about my own person in regards to my own personal choices for my own life, both present and future. As if my choices must mirror their own. As if I'm alien since I choose not to procreate humans. I just want to scream.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00513295925617165188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-36439533895742193582015-03-03T02:18:08.135-08:002015-03-03T02:18:08.135-08:00I am so glad to hear of another Kenyan child free ...I am so glad to hear of another Kenyan child free lady. I totally understand where you are coming from, but being child free was probably the best decision I ever made, standing for what I truly wanted without the pressure of having to tow the line. <br />There are plenty of support groups and forums you can join for moral support, and believe it or not plenty of child free men out there. <br />Good luck trying to find a Kenyan CF man... Lol Msafirihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14313357151744442469noreply@blogger.com