tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post7180370873393141987..comments2023-05-17T09:06:27.535-07:00Comments on The Childless by Choice Project: "Not a Mother" MindfulnessLaura S. Scotthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11503359529542988850noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-52377568334586572072014-05-19T23:55:33.379-07:002014-05-19T23:55:33.379-07:00Thank you Melanie Holmes for your kind words. To b...Thank you Melanie Holmes for your kind words. To be honest, it should alway be a conscious choice I feel - to choose being a parent or not becoming one. The stakes, especially when childeren are involved, are way to high not to be aware, conscious and awake. Our childeren deserve this and we deserve it. Hail to all the mums and non-mums for choosing with full awareness. Much love, Maaikemaaikes.writersbloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11315045516551081334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-18849403318420880212014-04-23T13:18:53.813-07:002014-04-23T13:18:53.813-07:00I admire you for striving to understand yourself a...I admire you for striving to understand yourself and to respect who you are, and not conform to the ideals of others who may try to tell you who they think you should be. It seems that this "choice" is fodder for so many conversations. People do not realize how much soul searching goes into the decision, and to utter a flip comment, such as "you'll change your mind," is disrespectful of all the inner-work you've done to reach inside and discover who you are and want to be. Great post, thanks!Our Book Club for Twohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01187356294732926651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-33927424763292917372014-04-02T04:40:17.153-07:002014-04-02T04:40:17.153-07:00For me a self-check is essential! Not only is this...For me a self-check is essential! Not only is this a choice, it is a conscious choice. Hail to you for sharing your bit on the matter. <br />It is important for others to know what it is like for us - and even more important for women like us to know that they are not alone. Let's do this - let's share our stories and support eachother. <br />Much love,<br />Maaikemaaikes.writersbloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11315045516551081334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-81271123302915791282014-04-02T03:35:09.288-07:002014-04-02T03:35:09.288-07:00For me a self-check is essential! I want this not ...For me a self-check is essential! I want this not only to be a choice, but a conscious choice as well. Hail for sharing your story. It is so important for others to know what it is like for us and it is so important for women like us that they're not alone! Much love, Maaikemaaikes.writersbloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11315045516551081334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-83319097865602098112014-03-22T16:26:15.732-07:002014-03-22T16:26:15.732-07:00I often do a self-check, and ask myself the same q...I often do a self-check, and ask myself the same question. I am childless by choice, and my husband is happy either way.<br /><br />I used to worry that he would divorce me because of this, but I now know that his love for me is deeper than the need to biologically have children.<br /><br />I am turning 39 next month, and also thought about the "what if I get pregnant now?" question. I simply couldn't do it.<br /><br />I don't regret my decision. I just regret the friends that I have lost because they can't understand the choice that I have made.Trish Robsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01875721589411954547noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-52712823014724099552014-02-26T01:13:26.655-08:002014-02-26T01:13:26.655-08:00Dear FireandEarth thank you for appreciating this ...Dear FireandEarth thank you for appreciating this post. And thank you for sharing your story. Know that all is fine, not to have childeren or to wanting to become a mum. You still have time - but don't feel pressured by anybody to have or not to have change of heart. And let us all support eachother in whatever choice we make. Much love, Maaikemaaikes.writersbloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11315045516551081334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-40332518924917217432014-02-26T01:09:02.129-08:002014-02-26T01:09:02.129-08:00Thank you FireandEarth for appreciating this post....Thank you FireandEarth for appreciating this post. And thank you for sharing your story. With an open heart and mind, all is fine. The choice being childless (for now) or the choice of wanting to become a mum. You have time and yet if you are sure - don't feel pressured by any means not to have or to have a change of heart. Much love, Maaikemaaikes.writersbloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11315045516551081334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-68725867621042289642014-02-11T09:20:32.351-08:002014-02-11T09:20:32.351-08:00That's a great post - thank you for sharing. ...That's a great post - thank you for sharing. I went for several years deliberately making that choice and appreciating that choice every day. I helps me feel confident in myself and reassures me that I do know what I want. I'm 33...lightning could still strike and I might make a different choice, but it's very hard to reconcile who I know I am (day after day, for years) with that fictional possibility. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com