tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post2991721569133004532..comments2023-05-17T09:06:27.535-07:00Comments on The Childless by Choice Project: Is it Selfish Not to Have Kids? A Parent’s PerspectiveLaura S. Scotthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11503359529542988850noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-73339187148768164642011-05-21T13:32:34.668-07:002011-05-21T13:32:34.668-07:00Temujin: I love your comment. Yes you can't ha...Temujin: I love your comment. Yes you can't have it both ways!Laura S. Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11503359529542988850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-4820980447054333942011-05-19T10:30:42.418-07:002011-05-19T10:30:42.418-07:00Refreshing perspective, though he never really add...Refreshing perspective, though he never really addressed the question of selfishness. I don't think being childfree is selfish, but let's just say for the sake of argument that it is. If I'm childfree for selfish reasons, who am I hurting? <br /><br />From what I keep hearing from evangelical pronatalists, I'll regret not having children. So, the person I'm hurting most is myself. How can it be selfish to choose to make my life worse? You can't have it both ways -- if having children is so wonderful, how could being childfree be selfish? If I'm selfish for being childfree, that must mean that there's great individual enjoyment from being childfree. yes, my point exactly.Temujinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15311893269588654768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-76025616966845076082011-04-20T17:55:35.359-07:002011-04-20T17:55:35.359-07:00Dana--Personally I'm Okay with sacrificing my ...Dana--Personally I'm Okay with sacrificing my genetic legacy. I don't hold that as a primary value in my life, but that's just me.Laura S. Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11503359529542988850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-45279834298005225452011-03-25T09:59:14.713-07:002011-03-25T09:59:14.713-07:00From a Darwinian perspective, having a child is ju...From a Darwinian perspective, having a child is just about the most selfish thing you could possibly do. One the other hand, it is those whom choose not to have children whom are sacrificing their genetic legacy.Danahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11692756074193193644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-50283639012908103942011-03-25T06:14:01.103-07:002011-03-25T06:14:01.103-07:00What a well-balanced insight he lent. This was ref...What a well-balanced insight he lent. This was refreshing. I'm always amazed by the people who view being childless as selfish. It's just as selfish to want a child. And don't even get me started on the people who undergo infertility treatments or adoption. They want to be parents so bad they're willing to do anything. That's selfish too. Yet for some reason that's a good selfish? But me choosing not to have kids is a bad selfish? Perplexing.Courtney Mrochhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07840568473303198997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-82857792678362956522011-03-22T16:50:48.181-07:002011-03-22T16:50:48.181-07:00I would add that anyone who chooses to be a parent...I would add that anyone who chooses to be a parent should realize that they are up for at least "twenty years of hard labor" and maybe even longer, depending on when that child "leaves the nest." Be willing to put other personal desires on hold, indefinitely, if not forever. The desire to be a parent overrides everything else. If, after knowing that you are basically giving up your own life in many ways for the life of another, and you are still passionate to do it, then do it. But society doesn't need any more unwanted, unloved children. Far too many of those as it is.Mark and Patty of Crystal Pyramid Productions in San Diegohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10835747439567648371noreply@blogger.com