tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post1425741530574580353..comments2023-05-17T09:06:27.535-07:00Comments on The Childless by Choice Project: Not Having Kids is NOT the Best Thing I have Ever DoneLaura S. Scotthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11503359529542988850noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-27382525796833214602009-10-28T13:08:42.406-07:002009-10-28T13:08:42.406-07:00I agree the best thing I ever did was to marry a m...I agree the best thing I ever did was to marry a man who respected me,my dreams, and my choices and wanted to have a life partner, rather than someone who would serve as a good helpmate and mother to his children.<br />I also agree with nari that parents and nonparents may second guess or wonder "what if..." That is natural once you have made your choice and begin to appreciate the pros and cons in your own life.Laura S. Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11503359529542988850noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-86985904660014246292009-10-25T11:38:40.344-07:002009-10-25T11:38:40.344-07:00I am childfree. I always knew. I chose my husband ...I am childfree. I always knew. I chose my husband in part based on this shared desire. But even we, solid in our desire, relentlessly discuss 'the other side'. I offer this, not choosing to raise children is a huge, life altering choice in the same exact way as choosing to have them. Every single aspect of your entire life reflects the outcome of that one decision. In the end, it's simply a choice. And BOTH choices are both selfish and unselfish. Perhaps there are those out there who are 100% unhappy or 100% happy with their choice 100% of the time, but I doubt it. It certainly won't make the rest of us any more solid if you get the label (childless/childfree) right, or a few negative adjectives (selfish, spoiled) get removed. I bet that even the most loving parents I know have moments where they momentarily second-guess their decision and envy my life, and wonder how their lives might be different, just as I do theirs. But none of that alters the fact that is is simply a choice. But all that said, I am glad I live in a world/country/society/whatever where it is a choice, and not an obligation.Jacquiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08845430638311120276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-2612794030177442212009-10-24T21:29:11.223-07:002009-10-24T21:29:11.223-07:00I plan on reading your book, as well. I am 28 year...I plan on reading your book, as well. I am 28 years old, and at about 16 I decided not to have children. My main reason was that I didn't want them. I have a wonderful mother, and my father was amazing, and I've got two brothers who I adore. When I started more serious dating I ran off guys (not really on purpose) by telling them that I was not going to have children (and that I was hyphenating my name.) I knew when I found a man that agreed with me, he would be worth it...and you know what...I did. My husband and I don't plan on having children, because neither of us want to have them. I don't regret it one bit. I love my friends kids, but at the end of the day it's great to come home to a great husband and a house full of animals (that we rescued!)<br /><br />I do agree, though, that often times people with kids basically isolate those who don't, but honestly, it's there loss.HJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15856990657060647598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2236461450774245955.post-58020894083522744452009-10-23T21:59:24.318-07:002009-10-23T21:59:24.318-07:00Thank you!!! I cannot wait to read your book. My h...Thank you!!! I cannot wait to read your book. My husband and I are childless by choice and it IS the best decision we have ever made with the exception of deciding to spend our lives together...just the two of us.Really?https://www.blogger.com/profile/03521432138549835425noreply@blogger.com